I had a good conversation yesterday about how a large church can facilitate discipleship for young families. From experience I can attest to the challenges young families face. For our family most week nights are out. With both of us working full-time both Kristina and I are usually exhausted by the time we get home. We barely have enough time to feed the kids before they go to bed.
Weekends are a challenge as well. I usually spend most of Saturday studying and our Saturday evenings are one of the few blocks of time we know we can set aside for family time. Sunday mornings we try and get to church bad go to the service and the kids go to Sunday school. We don’t like hanging around for two services because we don’t think its fair for our kids to go through the same lesson twice.
I think many young families are in a similar situation. The thought of making extra time for anything other than family is daunting. So how can the church develop discipleship programs to help young families.
First I think the church needs to create spaces for young families to connect with one another. Particularly I larger larger churches, young families may not know other families, so the thought of entering a small group with strangers may not seem encouraging. By creating spaces for these families to come together they may have the opportunity to cultivate relationships with other young families.
As these families begin to cultivate relationships they may see that they are developing relationships with people they who have a lot in common with them. When given an opportunity by the church they would he more likely to enter into a small group setting with these families.
The church can then provide resources and training for these groups, structuring them in a way that has a lot of flexibility and focuses on building deeper relationships.
As these families learn more about each other they may get to a place where they learn to share their lives with each other. By sharing their lives together these famines may not look at discipleship as another thing to do; instead they can grow together challenging each other to live a life with Christ as their center.